Jake Marvel
3/14/2001 - 6/28/2016These are my blog posts remembering my Jake.
Think back to the best relationships you have ever experienced.
They were exciting and fun as you share your time and got to know the each other.
As time passed they became part of your life in short, small steps. It happens with people and with our pets. They become family.
With great sadness this week I say good bye to my Jake. My loyal, trusty, faithful friend. He is not gone yet and the reality and sadness has not set in. But it is time to do the right thing for him. His bones are frail and age has taken it's toll.
At my desk I look behind my chair remembering how many times I sat in this exact spot with Jake napping at arms length. When I turned the light on he would quietly enter the room only asking for a treat or two for his services. I was always comforted to know he was there. A constant eye as I toiled for hours on the computer. Sometimes it was 4 a.m. and others mid-night. It never mattered to my friend, he was there.
How many conversation we shared, his communications always in his eyes and the wagging of his tail.
Even while napping he would lift his head and check to see if I were still there. Once confirmed he would resume his nap until 8:30 when his buddy, his grandma would get up. He would wonder off for a bite of banana only to return sometimes within minutes and take his rightful position beside me.
Those of you whom follow my posts know about Jake and you know how much his companionship has met to me over the fifteen years we have shared. In 2015 we created Bark in the Park and every Sunday we shared stories and lessons. Many of those years with our other buddy, Blanca which passed away April 2014. She has not been forgotten. They were quite a team.
This week will be devoted to Jake, the "Bark in the Park Dog". I hope to share some of the lessons he taught me which makes him so special. Things like unconditional love, consistency and passion. He helped shape the person I am and I could never repay him however hard I tried.
Never underestimate the power of a dogs love and the effects it could have on your life.
Today I share the last edition of "Bark in the Park". (a youtube video blog)
Jake, you are loved.
I pray as one of God's creatures there is a Rainbow Bridge and we will meet again.

6/28/16
It was January 21, 1993, I was on an airplane flying to Las Vegas. A self proclaimed bachelor for life. Little did I know what would happen on that winter day.
While on the two hour ATA Fun Jet Flight I noticed an attractive woman. Ok, she was a little hottie! My thoughts were always short term, have a little fun, no harm, no foul after all we were both adults.
Fast forward a few months to the dating game, and it was a game on both sides. Little did I know I had met the female me. We were attracted to each other, but were both a mess. I did not understand how relationships worked. Having a failed marriage and never grasping the concept of unconditional love, this was a struggle.
At one point out of frustration I announced "I'm getting a dog". I thought if I can take care of a dog then I can figure out a relationship. A dog would be easy! Feed him, give him a place to stay, he could be my buddy.
It did not take long for me to begin to understand responsibility. The dogs were much better than I, and they were constantly teaching me lessons about love.
The truth is without the dog teaching me about unconditional love I would never have the marriage I have today. I noticed the dogs gave me loving attention at every opportunity. The more love and gratitude they showed, the more I wanted to give them. They had me wrapped around their little paws.
The lesson was about the gratitude. The more they gave, the more I gave and thus with relationships. In a marriage the more you give, the more you get. It works the same in business.
Thank you for the gift of unconditional, un-judgmental, gratitude filled love, it makes me a better man everyday.

6/29/16
It was January 21, 1993, I was on an airplane flying to Las Vegas. A self proclaimed bachelor for life. Little did I know what would happen on that winter day.
While on the two hour ATA Fun Jet Flight I noticed an attractive woman. Ok, she was a little hottie! My thoughts were always short term, have a little fun, no harm, no foul after all we were both adults.
Fast forward a few months to the dating game, and it was a game on both sides. Little did I know I had met the female me. We were attracted to each other, but were both a mess. I did not understand how relationships worked. Having a failed marriage and never grasping the concept of unconditional love, this was a struggle.
At one point out of frustration I announced "I'm getting a dog". I thought if I can take care of a dog then I can figure out a relationship. A dog would be easy! Feed him, give him a place to stay, he could be my buddy.
It did not take long for me to begin to understand responsibility. The dogs were much better than I, and they were constantly teaching me lessons about love.
The truth is without the dog teaching me about unconditional love I would never have the marriage I have today. I noticed the dogs gave me loving attention at every opportunity. The more love and gratitude they showed, the more I wanted to give them. They had me wrapped around their little paws.
The lesson was about the gratitude. The more they gave, the more I gave and thus with relationships. In a marriage the more you give, the more you get. It works the same in business.
Thank you for the gift of unconditional, un-judgmental, gratitude filled love, it makes me a better man everyday.

6/30/16
The reality of life and death are setting in for me as I labor this morning, typing the words in for this blog post. It is difficult as I search for the silver lining. There seems to not be a one for me. My Jake is really gone. The harshness chews at my heart, the emptiness.
Life, it is short, and passes quickly.
Death, it is short, and passes quickly.
These words sound the same, each one leaving a wake of memories.
There is hope and understanding my friend is no longer in pain, and he understood my motives. They say there is a "Rainbow Bridge" so I may see my lost companions one day. I pray this is true and I look forward to that day.
If it were to have been my way he would be standing behind me wagging his tail begging for his morning treat only to find a nice place for his nap, comforting me with his presence.
I did find Jake was loved by many. That makes me proud of him. There were hundreds of well wishers with a common thread saying "I felt like I knew Jake from his posts, we love him and he will be missed".
What a great tribute for my friend. Thank you all.
The lesson for today is about the passing of time. Jake lived a long life for a Border Collie of more than 15 years. And now as I set in my office chair quietly working through the many emotions I see that 15 years is a blink of an eye.
What is the reality of 15 years? For me, I will be in my seventies.
If I am not happy where I am it is time to make a move towards my dreams. This event will create change in my life, so stay tuned. I am already planning some new chapters.
Again I want to thank each of you for listening as I share my story of Jake. I believe this is helping me cope. Tomorrow I want to write something fun in remembering Jake. So please visit.
He will be missed dearly and be thought of daily.
They say life is not the numbers but the dash in between. If this is true a single dash was not enough.
Love you my friend Jake Marvel 2001---------2016

7/1/16
I have heard it said our habits are direct reflection of the five people we spend most of our time with.
What I believe is Rockie and I are spending our time with some quality people. If you are reading this, it is you.
This week has not been easy for my family, however the interaction from so many people is helping us cope. Every post from the people whom shared "Bark in the Park" and friends who just wanted to share their understanding words to the blog views totaling more than 2,500 and the countless emails, and notes. Everyone counts, thank you.
Nothing can take away the hurt, and grieving following such a great loss. That being said it warms my heart to know the kind of people we associate ourselves with.
There is a link to the memorial page and I would love to see as many posts as we can get remembering my dear companion. Click https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=257006184668136&set=o.192474531449&type=3&theater
Leave a note, have you enjoyed a few of Jake's Bark in the Park videos, many people speak of feeling like they knew Jake, or if you just know us leave us a note we can keep it?
My lesson for today is this, when you live a life of gratitude it comes back three-fold.
I am a glass half-full guy and always try to find the positive. Some find it strange for me to always look to the brighter side of things. This week at my low point I had so many people tying to lift my spirits through texts, emails, calls checking in with encouragement.
I am amazed at the number of people comforting my family.
Last night was quietly painful and about mid-night as I was trying to sleep I got a text, the words eased my mind and helped me move closer to my new normal, closer to closing my eyes on a quiet night.
Jake should be with Blanca romping around the Rainbow Bridge free of pain and looking down on me. Still painful, still raw but moving forward each day.
After all it is the way life works, it is not always easy. But as the old Beatles song "Help, I need somebody" and my friends were there in groves.
Tim MarvelDallas/Richardson, TexasJuly 1, 2016
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Time will take away most of the pain, but you'll never stop missing him. There will come a time, though, when you'll remember him with fond memories and smiles instead of tears. But you'll never stop loving him.Peggy Verry - July 2, 2016
Tim/Rockie, I am so sorry for your loss. Jake shared his incredible love and stayed as long as he could. His presence on Earth will be missed, but he remains in the hearts and soul of those who loved him.Cindy Arledge - July 2, 2016
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had to make the painful decision the same day as you to send my little louie off with the Angels too. I believe there is a rainbow bridge and they will be there to greet us again....Wendy Perez - July 1, 2016
Although I've never met Jake, I can fully understand the love you had for him. The pain of losing him will ease, but the loss never does. I'm glad you and Rockie had so many years with him. He will meet you at that Rainbow Bridge some day.Cindy Scoggins - July 1, 2016
What a beautiful tribute to your boy. It is clear that Jake touched so many hearts and brought happiness and love to many people. Grateful to have met him and to help give him a peaceful goodbye. Sending warm thoughts to all who loved Jake.Erica Fry - July 1, 2016

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